Of course, feeling confident in your own skin is important, but people have started to push this so hard that people who are legitimately obese treat any constructive criticism or genuine concern as ‘body shame’. A year ago, I was overweight (according to BMI) and EXTREMELY, noticeably unhealthy. Regardless of my poor health (and frequent mention of it), people always tell me I ‘was perfect before’ I lost weight or ‘looked better before’ or that I’m ‘too skinny now’ regardless of my constant remarks that I’m far healthier & happier now.
I’m so glad I changed my lifestyle and got healthier, but this whole anti-fat-shaming thing has caused people to shame ME for losing 15kg of fat and changing my lifestyle to a far, far better one and it’s fucking absurd. Some women attack me, because they take my desire to lose weight as an insult to their body type - like I changed because I didn’t want to look like them. Some men attack me for being weak, not a real woman, or succumbing to what the media wants. Some men even tell me I’m the reason other women are insecure - because I changed my body when I wasn’t their idea of ‘obese’. These people are doing much more than body-shaming me - they’re shaming my health.
Telling someone they’re fat is NOT okay. Caring about anyone’s appearence like they should alter it to cater to your personal tastes is NOT okay. Encouraging someone you know to start exercising or eating healthier and discussing the benefits with them when they’re noticeably (noticeably is the issue here - it’s hard to judge health by looks, don’t do it on the Internet) obese is an amazing, brave thing to do. It doesn’t make you a body-shaming monster, it makes you a caring person. I wish somebody had encouraged me sooner.